Reprogram

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Any time you associate a thought with a physical sensation, you are creating an alternate neurological pathway.  You can express your anger through writing, talking, screaming, punching a bag, etc.  Make a very deep commitment to not resolve your anger by expressing it to the person you are angry with.  Once you have calmed down, you can then rationally deal with the situation that caused you to be so upset.  There is nothing rational about anger.  There is nothing that can be accomplished when two people are angry and trying to “solve” it.  You can only damage a relationship in this mode.

Also, commit to not suppressing anger.  It is the easiest method of not experiencing this emotion. It is a deadly strategy.

I feel that writing without form is the foundation of identifying and processing your anger.  You can write random words, sentences, a story, feelings, and actions.  Anything.  Just write.  It does not have to be remotely legible.  Just write.  Always immediately throw the paper away.  Don’t use a computer.  Feel your hands clench the pen and want to rip through the paper.  Feel the anger and write.  Write the most intense inappropriate thoughts that will come up. Don’t stop until you have calmed down.  If you stop early, you will still be upset, and more time will be wasted continuing to be angry than would have been spent continuing to write.

Writing when you are really angry will accomplish several things.  It will first bring it more to life and highlight it. It is one of the reasons patients will often instinctually avoid writing.  They don’t want to feel it.  Writing will quickly create a space between you and your thoughts.  You will see the anger as a separate entity and you can drop the identity of being an “angry person.”  It will slow down your racing thoughts.  Your victimhood will be clarified.  Going forward, you will be more adept in avoiding that role.  Writing is the one consistent tool that will turn down this turbocharger of anger on your racing thoughts.   Don’t “analyze” your anger. Don’t deny or suppress it. Feel it and write.  I literally wrote myself out of anger controlling my life.

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